If you’ve decided to take on the role of a
mentoring manager and develop a protégé from your staff in a one-on-one relationship,
the first step you need to take is to find out what that person wants to
achieve as a result of the mentoring process.
This is relatively easy to do. In
a mentoring relationship, learners are usually straightforward in telling you
want they want.
What they don’t tell you, however, is what
they fear.
Mentoring is a learner-focused
process. You want to do the best you can
in bringing out the best in your learners.
Sensitivity towards some of the apprehensions they might have about this
process can make you more effective.
Let’s examine what some of those learner fears might be.
Like most of us, learners may fear the
unknown. Coming into a mentoring
relationship presents new situations and circumstances which may cause
nervousness and discomfort. You can
mitigate this, of course, with a warm and welcoming approach. And, you can also take advantage of
this. Fear of the unknown is often
accompanied by anticipation, which can be functional in helping your learners
raise their performance.
In addition, your learners may fear an
early sense of failure. The outcome of a
successful mentoring process is improvement in performance, and many learners
begin with anxiety about not coping.
Where learners feel their abilities are poor, they may feel
vulnerable. If you can anticipate this,
you can be more sensitive in assuring your learners that your role is to
encourage them rather than to judge or evaluate them.
This leads us to the fear your learners may
have of being scrutinized. They may feel
that their performance is constantly under a microscope with you and everyone
else looking in. They may receive a good
deal of feedback from you about how others see them. To relieve this, always evaluate your learners
fairly. A heavy, judgmental approach can
cause more harm than good.
Finally, your learners may fear the
relationship itself. Until you’ve
established trust and openness, a mentoring relationship between a senior
manager and a subordinate can be intimidating.
Soon after the ice is broken, however, this fear recedes.
Anticipate these fears in your
learners. Acknowledge them and provide
assurance. Make adjustments in your
style if necessary. The sooner you help
your learners overcome their fears, the sooner you can guide them towards
self-development.
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